What do you need if you are in a divorce?
1. The divorce.
2. Good outcome that makes sense for you and how you will live.
a. Protection of relationship with your children.
b. Protection of your other justifiable interests – (a) assets, (b) career, (c) way of life.
3. Sanity
If you are a sound person in a divorce then you can get a good outcome by doing the outcome planning yourself.
Collect the financial documents and take them to an accountant — jointly. Figure out how to maximize what each person gets in the divorce. If you have some issues about who gets what, look at the big picture as well as the small. Ask the accountant to find you a mediator to work through the issues.
Come up with a parenting plan that give the children equal time with each parent and the best life possible.
That’s what good people do.
Bad people do a divorce differently. If you married and are divorcing a bad person, be prepared for the sleaze and waste that divorce can be with unscrupulous divorce lawyers in charge.
Divorce can be used to cause harm to people — including children.
There are divorce lawyers who gladly will orchestrate a divorce where the assets of the divorcing household that would otherwise have been available to the children of the divorcing household are converted into billed legal fees. (You end up paying the college tuition of your divorce lawyer’s children rather than your own children.)