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In a divorce there is one protective parent who is the advocate for the children? Nonsense.

That “good parent v. evil parent” nonsense is probably one of the biggest loads of nonsense in divorce litigation.

Expensive/wasteful nonsense that profits only the divorce lawyers and actually HARMS the children (who have their parents litigating and their college/orthodontia fund transferred to the children of the divorce lawyers).

Divorce is not the time and divorce court is not the place for family social work.

Divorce courts should order equal placement and remove children from the clutches of the divorce industry.

You want the government to “protect” the children?

Protection of children by government is for your state’s child protective services agency.

Even if you are in a marriage or a divorce where you feel you must “protect” the children from the other parent, the divorce court should decline the issue and have you go to the child protective services agency.

Your complaint that the divorcing dad is five minutes late to get the children to a girl scouts meeting will be heard in that agency between the case where the parents had the child locked in the basement and the case where the mom was buying drugs with the child in the back seat.

The solution to the financial support issue for children in such a situation is simple:

Change the child support system to make it equal and free of gender bias.

If ONE parent is obligated to pay child support then by law BOTH parents should be obligated to pay child support.

Then there is equal protection of the law for the child — whose parents both must make a documented financial contribution into a state-held fund for the child.

The state child support agency collects payments from BOTH parents and then allows disbursement from the fund by each parent according to the needs/expenses of the child, the division of parenting time/custody and the income of the parents. Each parent has a debit card and a monthly maximum; at year end there is an audit to ensure that the funds have been used for the direct/indirect support of the child. Surplus fees are available for unexpected/variable expenses or will be disbursed to the child upon reaching adulthood.

Either parent or both parents would be considered deadbeats and subject to criminal prosecution of they don’t make their child support payments.

A father or a mother who is employable but chooses not to work would still have to make a monthly payment. No mother can use child support payments by the father to support herself.

Then we have an equal system that protects the child’s interests.

Divorce lawyers may want to make your divorcing spouse into the enemy — to create distrust and antagonize and create hostility.

Hostility and distrust is profitable for the divorce industry.

Who is the actual enemy to the well-being of you and your children?

How is Mount Everest relevant to divorce?

One of the first things that your divorce lawyer is likely to request of you (after you pay the initial retainer) is that you share your complete financial information — income, assets, debts, accounts, investments, personal property, etc.  

The divorce lawyer is supposed to file a complete financial disclosure statement with the divorce court.  Your divorce lawyer may not make the filing — mine did not (I did the filing myself about two years later after I was self-represented) — but in any event she or he will have enough information to be able to assess your financial condition.  

And so your divorce lawyer will have your financial information and then will begin working your case and sending you bills for legal services. 

But what does billing by your divorce lawyer have to do with Mount Everest?  

Here you go …

Famed but ill-fated British mountaineer George Mallory was asked why he wanted to climb Mount Everest.

His answer:  “Because it’s there.”