Divorce is not the time and divorce court is not the place for (and divorce lawyers are not the people to be involved in) family social work involving children.
All you need to do to be a divorce lawyer is to pass the bar (and not have any better legal work to do).
Divorce lawyers have no required training in children issues.
And lawyer jokes and public image did not come out of nowhere. Divorce lawyers sadly meet the stereotypes (if not also exemplifying the stereotypes stereotypically).
You have failed as a parent if there are divorce lawyers involved with your children. Period.
And if you end up transferring the college/orthodontia fund of your children to the children of the divorce lawyer you are a big failure as a parent.
Do better than that for your children.
Take counsel regarding your children not from a divorce lawyer but from the best that is inside of you and/or from a professional who knows is trained and actually knows/cares what is best for children.